Saturday, November 2, 2013

Baby Shower Invites & Dinner with BFF

Well, I got the invitations completed and mailed this week. My hubby and I calculated that I punched over 700 times just on the invitations and that doesn't include the other handmade item I decided to make. I know that is kind of vague but I want that part to be a surprise for my bff. I was impressed that the post office had the invitations to everyone by the next day. Now, I'm hoping to start getting RSVP calls so I can plan for a head count. Do people actually RSVP anymore? It has been so long since I asked for RSVPs for an event. :)

I'm getting really excited and nervous about this baby shower. I have to start working on the decorations over the next week. I have only 15 days until the shower. Yikes! It is going to be here before I know it. I have had to alter some of my decoration ideas due to the room layout and this huge castle painting on every single wall of the room. It will definitely make it entertaining. I'm just grateful that we got a room for free and Baby Lillian's daddy can get more tables and chairs for free. That is a huge blessing!!

Last night I was able to have dinner with my bff and "see" Baby Lillian. My bff is adorable as a pregnant lady. :) You know how there are some people who just carry pregnancy well?!? My bff is definitely one of those people. I'm so happy for her!

It was great to be able to talk with her last night. I was able to be open and honest with her and share some of my feelings. I'm grateful that we have the kind of friendship that we can be that honest with each other. I told her that I was a little jealous of a person that may end up being a live in guest for awhile. She is a lovely person but I found myself jealous of the time she will have with Baby Lillian. As the "aunt" and godmother, I want my bond with Lillian to be a strong one and I don't want a temporary house guest to change that bond. What I had to work on within myself is that my friendship with my bff is so much stronger than that and I need to focus on the confidence I have in our friendship. She wouldn't have asked me to be the godmother if she didn't have the same confidence in our friendship. I have to keep reminding myself of that fact. This isn't like my other friendships that are just there for a season and then fall apart. This is one of my first really real friendships...it goes both ways and not just me giving but not receiving. I will always be there for my bff (and Baby Lillian) and she will always be there for me. I know I cannot let the dynamic change in their household threaten my confidence in the friendship. When Lillian joins us in this world, their family dynamic is going to change and that means our friendship will change but it will not go away. We will still be the best of friends. We have grown through many changes in our lives already: job changes, grad school starting, hubby job changes, illness, etc. Our friendship will only grow from this change like it has through the other changes. Most friendships would have withered away when one person left the job that introduced them to each other...ours did not...it only grew and that is what it will continue to do as the dynamics of life change it.

I'm so excited to have Baby Lillian join our lives. She is going to enrich my bff's life and the life of her hubby...and she will enrich my life and the life of my hubby. I can't wait to have baby stuff all around my house. And as Lillian gets older, a car seat in my car. :) I know it sounds silly but that is one of the things I'm looking forward to...have a car seat in my car...mainly because I want to babysit and see Lillian enough that it gets annoying to have to move the car seat from their car to mine so I will just have to buy my own. :) This is an exciting time in life. I know my bff and her husband are going to be amazing parents!! I just want to be there for them and Lillian without over-stepping my bounds. I know that will be a fine line to balance but I'm going to do my best...and since my bff and I can be so honest with each other, I know she will tell me when I'm too over the top. :)

Well, I'm off to work on more decorations. :)

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